Monday, June 30, 2008

How To Overcome Fear

Fear is the key
This is the story of friend of mine, that happened many years ago.While he was hale and healthy in his mid twenties, developed the habit of 'acquiring' worries.One such thing was, whenever he combed hair, a few strands used to fall off. He started observing closely, started spending more time in front of the mirror.A few weeks passed.One day, a 'virus' crept into his mind - he started believing that he may get bald shortly! He was unmarried, so his continued anxiety turned into fear that, with a bald head,he may not be accepted by the girl that he may be proposed to marry. So, he got down to 'tackle' this virus and started medication. By the turn of next 2-3 years, he turned half bald! May be that this would have happened in the normal course of aging, but he made it happen pretty sooner - mainly driven by his own fear (too much of medication and lack of meditation?). Egg-head apart, he also developed acidity and ulcers. Story continues,but we stop.A good example of how worry plays havoc on our mind. Fear is the key.

Most of us have this trait in-built, though with varying degree. And many of us would have erred in our way (one day or the other?) on account of this undesirable trait!. *Continued anxiety or apprehension accumulates fear in mind.* Anxiety of things to happen in future - in career, in relationships, health, return on investment etc., etc. *Fear compels the mind to backtrack/withdraw, make them think negative. *A person with fear in mind lacks confidence and is sure to mess up/ complicate things for self and for others too.

The anti virus for this worm is the 'mental preparedness' to meet the challenges that life presents to us time to time.This preparedness comes out of a balanced mind that is controlled by intellect (wisdom)which should be present at the time of arriving at a conclusion or while tackling a situation.

Tame the mind to keep calm so that it can prompt you to act in a discriminative way. Shun unreasonable fear fear. Give a cool thinking before acting, when we face disturbing events Fearlessness is the index of a 'cool' mind.

Source: From SMO Of The Company I'm Working For

Thursday, June 12, 2008

When Life Seems Hard - Look At A Tea Cup

A man who had just lost his job went over to a shop and with the last of his money decided to buy a beautiful teacup for his wife. On the display shelf, he saw the perfect cup and told the sales person to take it down, "I've never seen a cup so beautiful!" he said as she handed it to him and he paid the money..

The man had tears as he handled the lovely cup but felt sad as he looked at his empty wallet. Suddenly the cup spoke: "I have not always been a tea-cup," it said, "there was a time when I was just a lump of red clay. My master took me and rolled me pounded and patted me over and over and I yelled out, "don't do that. I don't like it! Let me alone", but he only smiled, and gently said; 'Not yet!!'

"Then. WHAM! I was placed on a spinning wheel and suddenly I was spun around and around and around. 'Stop it! I'm getting so dizzy! I'm going to be sick!', I screamed. But the master only nodded and said, quietly; 'Not yet' He spun me and poked and prodded and bent me out of shape to suit himself and then he put me in the oven."

" I never felt such heat. I yelled and knocked and pounded at the door. 'Help! Get me out of here!' I could see him through the opening and I could read his lips as he shook his head from side to side, 'Not yet'. "When I thought I couldn't bear it another minute, the door opened. He carefully took me out and put me on the shelf, and I began to cool. Oh, that felt so good! 'Ah, this is much better,' I thought.

"But, after I cooled he picked me up and he brushed and painted me all over. The fumes were horrible. I thought I would gag. 'Oh, please stop it, Stop it!!' I cried. He only shook his head and said. 'Not yet!'.

"Then suddenly he put me back in to the oven. Only it was not like the first one. This was twice as hot and I just knew I would suffocate. I begged. I pleaded. I screamed I cried. I was convinced I would never make it, was ready to give up. Just then the door opened and he took me out and again placed me on the shelf, where I cooled and waited and waited, wondering what's he going to do to me next?

"An hour later he handed me a mirror and said 'Look at yourself.' And I did,

"I said, 'That's not me; that couldn't be me. It's beautiful. I'm beautiful!"'

"Quietly he spoke: I want you to remember, then,' he said, 'I know it hurt to be rolled and pounded and patted, but had I just left you alone, you'd have dried up. I know it made you dizzy to spin around on the wheel, but if I had stopped, you would have crumbled. I know it hurt and it was hot and disagreeable in the oven, but if I hadn't put you there, you would have cracked."

"'I know the fumes were bad when I brushed and painted you all over, but if I hadn't done that, you never would have hardened. You would not have had any color in your life. If I hadn't put you back in that second oven, you wouldn't have survived for long because the hardness would not have held. Now you are a finished product. Now you are what I had in mind when I first began with you."

The beautiful cup looked up at the man who had just lost his job, "So don't cry my friend. You are going through the shaping and heat and painting I went through. But when the potter stops you will be lovely to behold..!

So when life seems hard, and you are being pounded and patted and pushed almost beyond endurance; when your world seems to be spinning out of control; when you feel like you are in a fiery furnace of trials; when life seems awful and terrible, try this: Brew a cup of your favorite tea in your prettiest teacup, sit down and think on this story and then, have a little talk with the Potter (Ur Creator). He knows what He is doing and may just tell you: "Not yet..!"

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